In 1968 Mick Jagger and The Rolling Stones, sang the iconic lyric ‘You Can’t Always Get What You Want’.
Wake up and hear the chorus!
The repeated chorus evoked a resigned pragmatism. Do you often feel that you do not get what you want? I refer to the song lyric here as clients sometimes do not realise that they can get what they want, or are reluctant to embrace the progress they have made in the course of hypnotherapy.
Do you repeat and repeat and repeat the negative?
Imagine this. I was sitting listening to the familiar comment by a client on her hypnotherapy: “I thought it would have worked by now. I have not been to a Feast. I have not noticed a difference.” Some time ago I posted about my work with a client who experienced a phobia of noises and especially bangs from fireworks. And including a terror of balloons for the obvious reason that they might go bang. After a few sessions she was able to blow up balloons, but still she lamented, “I can still not go to a Feast”. As I mentioned in my previous posting, my client was born and resides in a country where fireworks are as familiar as the furniture in her sitting room
“Did you truly not notice any difference?” I asked.
“This year”, my client replied, “the windows were open [in my sitting room], and I was without the head phones.” She continued, “I was at work and there was a feast and I didn’t even jump, and they [the windows] weren’t closed.”
Now listen to the Wake-up Call of a Dawning Chorus!
She continued even more, “Last week I was driving to work. I got control of myself. I was telling myself I am not afraid any more.” Note we had never discussed driving with respect to interactive hypnotherapy! The increased confidence while driving, was a by-product of the therapy.
I sat momentarily amazed, and I took up her initial point about the head phones. “Please could you tell me more about the head phones and the windows being open? Did you wear the head phones last year?”
“Yes, I have worn them for twenty years.”
“And the windows? Last year were they closed?”
“Yes, every year I wore the head phones, and closed the windows.”
“And this year you did not wear the head phones and the windows were open?”
“Yes” my client confirmed.
I sat in momentary repose. “Is that not success?” I asked.
“Well I suppose so… but I have not been to a Feast.”
“Yes, but you are on your way to a Feast!”
Of course I was the more excited of the two of us, and also astounded that my client had not got it!
Are you like one of the characters in the Wizard of Oz?
How similar my client seemed to be to those familiar three characters, accompanying Dorothy along the yellow brick road to the Land of Oz. Tin Man, Scarecrow, and Lion do not acknowledge how their experiences along the journey have nourished the roots of growth and potential for change. None of them recognizes what it has taken for them to experience their longed-for qualities. They claim their hearts’ desire from the Wizard in the Land of Oz, bearing the proof of their victory over the Witch ― the broomstick, totally unaware.
‘Why have you come back?’ the Wizard demands, perhaps quite exasperated by the trio’s inability to grasp the glaringly obvious? The Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion, if only they had noticed, had already enjoyed, just like my client, so many opportunities to realize their newly discovered talents. ‘I hope my strength holds out,’ said Lion as he led the way towards the Witch’s castle. ‘I hope your tail holds out,’ retorted Scarecrow, clutching another bright idea.
The last I heard from my client, is that she had stood together with her daughter watching the fireworks from the roof of her home.
Will it take a wizard to convince you that you already have your heart’s desire?
Therapists can seem extra-ordinary when you have something that you wish to ask a Wizard for.
The truth is this:
You can often get what you want!
Interactive hypnotherapy truly can be a one-stop shop to get it.
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